Showing posts with label Caregiver. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Caregiver. Show all posts

Friday, February 15, 2019

Last Visit?

My dad moved in with my sister, gosh, about 8-10 years ago to help them both out financially. Then he was diagnosed with Parkinson's. A couple years ago he started needing 24 hour care and my sister has been doing it every day since. Now he's 94 and his health is deteriorating. I flew down to San Diego last week to see them.

I worked on Thursday and then Chuck and Beth drove me to the airport. My flight actually got in just before midnight! Yawn! I took Super Shuttle from the airport to her house so all she had to go was open the door! I love Super Shuttle!



I planned my trip around my sister's birthday and had called my niece ahead of time so we could plan a small party for her while I was there. My niece and nephew and their families came over for a while. It was loud, but fun to see everyone! Deb was definitely surprised!







My dad gets up usually every 90 minutes throughout the night and I slept on the couch right outside his room so Deb could hopefully get a good nights sleep. He needs help with everything from just standing up to brushing his teeth and fixing meals. My sister does his laundry, prepares his meds, pays his bills and puts him to bed every night. She's sleep deprived and worn out. I was only there for a few days but I wanted to give her just a small break from the non-stop care giving.

My dad isn't a gushy, share your feelings kind of guy but this time he told me over and over how thankful he was that I was there. He told me to tell Chuck 'thank you for letting me come down.'  He was grateful for my help and so thankful Debbie was getting a small break. He knows how much Deb loves him and he was getting emotional when he talked about it.


The morning I left, the shuttle was picking me up at 4am so I was up at 3:00 and my dad woke up a few minutes later. Deb came out to help him while I went into the big bathroom to put on make up and she came in, "Dad's calling for you." He told me again how glad he was that I was there and how good it was to see me. I gave him a gentle hug (he's so skinny) and told him I loved him and that I was so glad I got to come down. 

Deb helped him lay back down and he kept saying how much he loved seeing me. When I was walking out of his room I looked back at him and his eyes were closed but he kept talking, saying he was so thankful...